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hinatachan64
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So, he likes me, and he asked me out on a date. But... he's one year younger than I am. :x I mean, when you're in college or you're an adult it's not a big deal, but when you're in High School, one year makes a humongous difference. I'm afraid I might call more attention than I already do (given my personality).
I must say I am attracted to him, and he is physically bigger.
What should I do? I've never had this sort of problem before... I always date men who are much much older than me? I'm a bit confused. A little advice would be great.
Posted: Nov 3rd, 2009 03:18:19 pm |
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One year younger? Means nothing. Even way back when I was in HS, I dated 2 different Juniors when I was a Sophomore.
Posted: Nov 3rd, 2009 03:21:18 pm |
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Act natural kid. (Han Solo moment)
You gotta make a checklist for yourself. How well do you know him? Do you want to go on a date with him? Think of the future (No, not 10 years. More like a few months, to a year?)- can you see yourself being with him? If not, this will be just another relationship that will end up with a breakup. The key is, you just have to be honest with yourself. Consider all the choices. All the outcomes. The pros and cons. And tell yourself, Yes or No?
edit: Also.. what's with the title? ._. Unless you mean..
Posted: Nov 3rd, 2009 03:22:18 pm |
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I'm a junior in high school and I date a junior in college, and we've been dating for over a year without problems.
And I'm not quiet about it, so it's not some kind of secret.
Just date him, no one really cares in high school, unless you piss another girl off. Then it becomes drama for a week, until the next best thing to pick at comes along.
Posted: Nov 3rd, 2009 03:33:21 pm |
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@mrgears: You meant at two separate times, right? xD
I personally don't think a year is that much of a problem. I have also dated a guy that was a year younger than me when I was in school. It was a little weird at first but... you forget about that if you like the person enough. Why let age hold you back, especially if it's only a year? ^_^ I say go for it if you like him.
Posted: Nov 3rd, 2009 03:35:27 pm |
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@dark_depths: The title is just a saying when a guy/girl is dating someone much younger than them. Doesn't really mean anything. It's just something to catch people's attention?
I see what you all are saying. It makes sense for a guy to go out with a younger girl, but it's not so common for a girl to be dating a younger guy. That's why it's a bit odd for me. Mrgears kind of comforted me, and what Darkie is saying is helping me a lot? I'll still think about it for a while longer. It's not that easy to make a decision.
A part of me just says 'screw it, just go with it', but the part of me that knows I'll have a license before he does, stops me every time.
Posted: Nov 3rd, 2009 03:55:17 pm |
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Just go with it :\ Even a year in high school doesn't make much difference. So what if you'll drive first before him, it's not going to make that much of a deal. You two can meet at the place and then go from there. Hell, I was yeay close to going out with a girl who was a year older than me and except for her just saying no, it would've worked out fine.
Posted: Nov 3rd, 2009 04:08:43 pm |
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Just go for it. I know it might be weird dating someone younger than you, but it's only a year and it's highschool.
I know a lot of girls that have dated younger guys, it's no big deal.
Posted: Nov 3rd, 2009 04:38:18 pm |
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//@mrgears: You meant at two separate times, right? xD//
Ahem.... well.... there may have been a little bit of an overlap.
I've never been one to succomb to appearences. The older you get, the less a year or two age differnce means if the girl is older. Lets talk about grade school. I asked an 8th grade girl if she wanted to go to the movies with me. I was in 7th. At first she thought I was goofy but she realized soon after I seemed "mature" enough for her. That is a big deal I suppose. In the end she still never went on a date with me, she didn't want to be seen with a guy from a younger grade.
Posted: Nov 3rd, 2009 05:31:53 pm |
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Quote:
I dated 2 different Juniors when I was a Sophomore.
:o I'm sorry, first thought I had was "Look at him go." Guys use to wish they can do that. XD
Cougar is the next big thing...and really, one year doesn't cut it though. It's like dating a guy who's actually 9 months younger then you, it just doesn't matter.
Posted: Nov 3rd, 2009 06:13:36 pm |
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1 year? don't sweat it. I always had a policy never to date anyone 2 years younger or older than me. And I didn't date a younger girl until I was 18.
Posted: Nov 3rd, 2009 08:23:04 pm |
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id say go for it and if it turn out he really is to young then you can dump him...it's not like your married...^_^
Posted: Nov 3rd, 2009 08:40:52 pm |
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I hate it when people make a big deal out of dating someone a year younger than you. It isn't a big deal and never is no matter what age or sex you are.
My boyfriend that I've been dating since I was 16 (yes, I was in high school) is a year and a month younger than I am.
Posted: Nov 4th, 2009 09:57:14 am |
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I went out on a date with a girl thats 4 years older than me
Posted: Nov 4th, 2009 10:07:13 am |
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A year is nothing, even when you're younger. Age definately is less of a big deal the older you get, but I think a year is still acceptable in high school.
My guy is a year and a month younger than me too. That doesn't bother me. I normally date older guys though, for some reason. I dated a guy that was 4 years older than me, and the age was never a big deal.
Posted: Nov 4th, 2009 11:31:06 am |
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I agree with the majority here
My concern is not about the age gap here
Sometimes Older guys still think and act like a child
of course there also some younger guys that act like a mature man, and if he's on this type,
trustful, reliable, and have high rsponsiblity, nothing to be afraid for the age gap,
experiences of life is the most important thing in this world, and it has nothing to do with your age
Posted: Nov 4th, 2009 12:12:34 pm |
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My friend is dating a year down and she couldn't be happier. If you want it, go for it.
Besides, i have several freshmen buddies who are dating seniors. So its not as bad as you think ;)
Posted: Nov 4th, 2009 12:22:32 pm |
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You guys are all so awesome. Since no one has opposed (yet), I guess I'll give it a try. It'll still be a bit embarrassing, though, for me. >.>
Posted: Nov 4th, 2009 01:34:32 pm |
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^ yeah nothing wrong with a year difference. one of my best friends is 18, college freshman, and is dating a high school sophomore. Nothing really wrong with it, as long as they don't do anything naughty, tee-hee.
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Act natural kid. (Han Solo moment)
my Star Wars senses were tingling.
Posted: Nov 4th, 2009 01:42:16 pm |
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If you want extreems, I dated a woman for about a year who was 12 years older than me. The youngest was 8 years less than me.
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